Friday, September 26, 2014

Trailblazer: Martha McSally, Jet Fighter Pilot

The brave women of the World War II Women Airforce Service Pilots (WASP) broke ground for today's women who joined the military and fly the skies for the USA. To learn more about these pioneer pilots in service to our country, click here for more information about the WASP team.

The reproduction of the Congressional Gold Medal awarded to the WASP decorates the side of the float. The 38 stars around the medal salute the 38 WASP who lost their lives in service to their country.

Martha McSally, Colonel (retired) in the United States Air Force (USAF), flew the A-10 Warthog attack plane in the skies over Iraq and Afghanistan in the mid-1990s.  She was the first American woman to fly in combat since the 1991 lifting of the prohibition of women in combat.  Col. McSally is also the first woman to command a USAF fighter squadron. 

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Col. McSally with an A-10 Thunderbolt II jet
Today Martha McSally is a candidate for representative for the state of Arizona in the U.S. congress. 

Have you considered a career in flying planes? Would you want to join the military in order to fly a fighter jet?  Please leave your comment below. I love to hear from you.

Friday, September 19, 2014

Raise Girls to Be Leaders, Allies and Agents of Change by Lori Day

Her Next Chapter by Lori Day and Charlotte Kugler

Today we welcome author Lori Day to the Girls Succeed! blog. In a previous Girls Succeed! blog post I offered suggestions for starting your own Mother-Daughter Book Club based on Lori's book, Her Next Chapter. Because I believe Lori has many positive messages to moms and girls, I invited her to be our guest. And she accepted!

I am thrilled to introduce you to Lori Day and to share her guest blog post.
Using Mother-Daughter Book Clubs to 
Raise Girls to Be Leaders, 
Allies and Agents of Change 
by Lori Day

One of the most fulfilling and most memorable undertakings of my parenting journey was the formation of a mother-daughter book club, a collaboration with my then eight-year-old daughter and four other mother-daughter pairs that would last for six years. We all discussed the need to counteract stereotyped and sexualized girl culture with positive messages about who girls and women really are and what they can do.

As mothers, we wanted to work together as a village to develop open communication with our daughters early on, so our girls would be listening (and talking to us) when all the marketing and media messaging aimed at girls needed to be deconstructed and kept at bay. We knew it was becoming increasingly difficult to raise happy, healthy girls with good self-esteem in our increasingly shallow, beauty-obsessed society. We felt we could do a better job at this together than separately.
I remember noticing how few books and movies for children had female protagonists, and of the ones that did, how few of those portrayed women and girls in strong, positive roles. As mothers, we wanted more for our daughters than stories that revolved around the adventures of boys and men as the default, leaving the stories of girls and women marginalized as chick lit and chick flicks.

In a culture that is not always healthy for today’s girls, and that can make the job of raising girls feel intimidating or isolating, it is crucial for mothers to join together to guide daughters in ways that are uplifting and enjoyable. The teaching of media literacy is critical, and is accomplished very successfully within clubs that use carefully chosen female-centric books and media as side doors into crucial conversations about growing up female.

While mother-daughter book clubs can do a lot for girls, I can’t stress enough how much these clubs can also do for mothers. Raising kids today is hard, and raising girls comes with a unique set of challenges for mothers. This learning from other trusted and respected mothers is perhaps one of the least discussed but most important benefits to a mother-daughter book club today.

I have huge concerns about the parenting culture we have now, especially for mothers. Mothers are under constant media bombardment. You cannot open a magazine or browse articles online or tune in to FaceBook without reading some version of how mothers are doing it wrong. Or can’t have it all. Or should have it all. Or are not following the “right” method for potty training or breastfeeding or violin instruction or fill-in-the-blank.  And none of them, it seems, can regain their figures quickly enough after giving birth, like celebrities do. It is endless. Mothers need to seek less validation for their parenting decisions, to judge each other less, and to find more ways of forming genuine connections with other women who sincerely want to be their allies, not their “mompetitors.”

Mother-daughter book clubs are a way to sidestep some of this noise and instead listen closely to other chosen mothers that you trust. They can provide a measured amount of communal upbringing that is sorely lacking in today’s world, and are a fantastic way of building community among mothers as well as daughters. Mother-daughter book clubs are not only a way for girls to find their inner voices, but for mothers to do the same.

Together, from one generation to the next, we can change the world—one girl at a time, one book at a time, one voice at a time.

Welcome to the village!


Lori Day is an educational psychologist and consultant with Lori Day Consulting in Newburyport, MA. Previously Lori worked as a psychologist, teacher and school administrator for over 25 years in public schools, private schools,
and at the college level. She is a co-founder and member of the advisory board of the Brave Girls Alliance, a global think tank of girl empowerment experts who advocate for healthier media and products for girls. Lori is also a freelance writer, as well as a blogger for the Huffington Post and various other sites, writing about parenting, education, child development, gender, media, and pop culture. Her first book, titled Her Next Chapter: How Mother-Daughter Book Clubs Can Help Girls Navigate Malicious Media, Risky Relationships, Girl Gossip, and So Much More, came out in May of 2014, published by Chicago Review Press. Lori speaks publicly about mother-daughter book clubs, media literacy, and raising confident girls in today’s culture.

Saturday, September 13, 2014

We Salute You, Skateboarder Alana Smith

Alana Smith, 13 year old super skateboarder, is the youngest competitor to win a medal in the X games. She one of only a handful of girls participating in this thrilling sport. You rock, GRRL!

We salute Alana for her spirit, athleticism, and being a leader in the sport of skateboarding!

Here's a video of Alana in action at the X games in Barcelona in 2012. 

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Start Your Own Mother-Daughter Book Club

Do you like to read? Do you like to watch videos? Do you like to talk and laugh?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then I bet you'd be a good candidate to start your own Mother-Daughter Book and Video Club. 

I know your lives are very busy, so why start something new? Book clubs are more than about sharing and discussing books we love to read. This is a special mother-daughter time set aside to be together and a time for friends to interact with mothers and daughters. 
A chance to tune up reading skills. 
A forum to speak in front of a group. 
Opportunities to have discussions on topics that may be difficult to discuss otherwise.

Author Lori Day says, "What matters most is being a club focused on providing a nurturing community for your daughters as they grow up."--Her Next Chapter

Here are a few ideas to get your club started. 

1. Invite girls of the same age to join the club. Be sure to invite the moms too, but you should make sure that both the mom and the girl you invite enjoy reading books and watching videos. (You may wish to make it just a book club or just a video club.)

2. Keep the number of members low. As little as three gals and their moms can be a club because you can have a good discussion about the book/video with that number. I would recommend not more than six pairs in a club.

3. Decide when to meet. Once a month is usually doable but you may want to make it once ever six weeks to allow all the moms and girls to have the opportunity to read the book before the meeting.

4. Decide where to meet. Hosting the meetings in homes is a comfortable place to meet. (Plus the snacks are easy to get to!) If not homes, perhaps your public library has a small meeting room or a church has a classroom available.

5. Schedule an organizational meeting for mothers and daughters to get together to discuss what the objectives of the club are and to determine what kinds of books/videos they want to explore.  Girls should have a voice in this because they are one half of the group.

6. And last, but definitely not least, choose books and videos appropriate for the girls' age. You can ask your girls' teachers for a suggested reading list, check with librarians, and discover resources on the Internet such as A Mighty Girl,''books for smart, confident, and courageous girls' like you!"  and a

 7. For more information on starting a book club check the Mighty Girl site and a book by Lori Day, Her Next Chapter: Mother-Daughter Book Clubs.